To Master Emotions and Be Happy

To master emotions and be happy is the ambition of every person. Emotions are the energized feelings. A person cannot avoid emotions since it the impulsive response to circumstances. Emotions include a wide variety of feeling such as fear, guilt, anger, and unworthiness.

Any how, emotions will impair the happiness of a person, when the person gets affected in the flood of emotions. To maintain a happy outlook, it has become an essentiality to control the emotions.

Emotions become most dangerous, when it affects the peoples, interacting with you. It is common that in the events of uncontrolled emotion, it results outraged behavior and may hurt the others feeling. Thus emotions are a sequential action, which in effect, may badly affect the whole society.

The history of mankind shows that many of the black marks happened because of any single emotional out break of the person. The mastery over emotions is essential, also because, it will help you to better mould as a good human beings.

As told, avoidance of emotions is not practical in the daily life; a person can only control the emotions. The first step to control the emotions has to begin from the realization of the emotions. You have to first make up your mind to control the emotions. Remember, emotions become dangerous, when you react to the impulse. The basic thing to be happy is to prevent your response.

The repeated thought process and regular reminding will restrict your outspoken nature. However, be cautious and seek the advice of the experts while getting started since the suppression of the feelings may cause any other sort of mental disturbances. It is also advisable to a primary investigation about the behavior of the person since in many cases, the emotional out breaks are caused because of mental disorders.

The practice of mental relaxation techniques is an ideal way to control the emotions. The relaxation techniques such as meditation, Yoga, bio feed back and imaginative therapies will help to relax your mind and keep your mind, in your control. Religious faith is also major factor that can give you consciousness.

Involvement in your favorite sports and arts is also a preferred method, which will relax both mind and body. Some recent studies show that diet plays a role in the emotional out breaks and hence, you hence you have to practice a balance diet. The step by step self control exercise is focused to remold the persons for a problem free and happy life.

Being happy is the intention of every one. For that, keep in mind an old saying, which means, if you want to be happy, keep others happy. Hence, stop for a moment, when you get in touch with any thing that raises your emotions. Take a deep breath and think about the details of the issue. It is sure that, if you can spare a moment to rethink, you can definitely progress to mastering your emotions and be a very happy person. ( By John Khu )

You Deserve to Be Happy!

Those ten words by Aristotle pretty much summarize what today's article is about. You deserve to be happy and you have the power within to make it that way. You don't have to settle for being unhappy, sad, depressed or anything else that disempowers you.

If you're feeling bad I pray that this week's article will help you to feel good. If you're feeling good I hope that you'll feel even better! In the words of Suzanne Falter-Barns, "How much joy can you stand?"

I'm not much of a math guy, but I want to drop a few statistics on you. In a 24 hour day the average person spends anywhere from 8-10 hours at work, including travel. The average American starts working a full-time job at age 19. That person will work for the next 46 years. That's an awful lot of time dedicated to your job! If you're going to spend this much time working, don't you think you should be doing something you enjoy?

I know that you have to do what you have to do. Maybe you have kids or you've got bills; you've got that vacation coming up. Hey, you're grown and you have to take care of your responsibilities. But, are you truly happy? Is this really what you want? Or are you just settling for what you have? Do you believe that you deserve to be happy?

For the first 5 years after I graduated from college I had 5 different full-time jobs! That's right, 5! Can you imagine how unstable I was? Hopping from job-to-job and even getting fired twice. I had even launched business ventures that failed. My self- confidence took a major blow. There were times when I felt like a loser and even felt tempted to tell other people that. There were years when I just wasn't sure what was going to happen next. It was pretty scary.

But even during the tough times I'd remind myself that eventually things would work out and I deserved what I wanted. I deserved to feel good, be happy, and be successful. What I'm trying to tell you is that happiness is a state of mind. You can change your life instantly by changing how you think and how you speak.

Do you know that your words and thoughts have power? They are actually forms of energy that flow from your mouth and mind out into the universe. The universe (also known as God, the Creator, etc) then takes what you say and think and gives it to you. You deserve to be happy because God wants you to be. You need to be at your very best in order to give your gifts to this world that desperately needs them.

With that said, check this out. YOU CAN ASK FOR HAPPINESS! When I'm in the midst of an unpleasant time I say to myself, "I want to feel good." In essence, I'm requesting happiness. You can do the same. (For more on this, read works by Wayne Dyer, Jerry and Esther Hicks, and the Bible)

Before I go, I want to leave you with 5 Steps for Being Happy.

1. Think about times when you have felt happy, good or content. Where were you? Who were you with? What were you doing, thinking or feeling that made you feel happy?

2. Decide to make more time in your life to do more of what is important to you and makes you feel happier. To be happy, you have to make happiness a priority in your life.

3. Focus on what is positive about yourself, others and life in general instead of dwelling on the negative. In a journal, write down as many positive things as you can think of.

4. Appreciate what is working in your life right now. In the major areas of your life, such as your health, job, love life, friends, family, money and living situation, what is going well?

5. Get some help. Talk to someone like a psychotherapist, career counselor, or spiritual advisor (minister or teacher) to help you sort out what would make you happy.

For the past few years Derek Felton has engaged audiences all over with his philosophies on Purpose, Passion, and Attitude. Affectionately known as “Mr. Positive”, Derek has an uncanny ability to relate to a wide range of people – from skeptical teenagers to worldly adults.

Derek believes that each of us has a unique Purpose that we are responsible for discovering and nurturing. Without a clear focus of our mission we become stagnant, our decision-making falters, and our lives aren’t as fulfilling. His Passion is helping those who want to be empowered and encouraged. He also helps others to understand their potential. When you are Passionate about your Purpose your Attitude will allow you to achieve greatness! ( By Derek Felton )

A Formula For Happiness?

Did you know that psychologists have now come up with a formula for happiness?

They call themselves "positive psychologists" and led by Professor Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania, who has been described as the father of positive psychology, they have a formula for happiness.

It is simply: Pleasure + engagement + meaning = happiness.

I do not have a degree in psychology but I am a student of human kind and it seems to me that while it seems simplistic (and these "positive psychologists" will be the first to admit it is overly simplistic) it actually touches on the central issues that I have expressed to my readers over the years.

In order to be happy we need pleasure in our lives. We need the small pleasures of a tasty treat, a beautiful sunrise, or laughter. We also need larger pleasures found in success and love.

We also need engagement to be happy. This means that our lives must include activities or enterprises that capture our wholehearted interest. You know, the level of engagement when we forget about the clock, the outside world, and just about everything but the object of our focus.

Finally, we must have meaning in our life. We must feel that we matter and that what we do matters. We must know that we are valuable, valued and that our lives make a difference.

One of the faults with this simple formula is that it does not include an urge to balance. It would be too easy to focus on one area to the detriment of others. While engagement and meaning are essential to the formula, for example, overlooking the need for pleasure could make happiness impossible to attain.

While some may mock this "happiness formula", I would argue that it can be useful in the pursuit of becoming a happier person. We all need reminders that being happy is not serendipity but rather an active choice. In fact, more than a choice, being happy really is an action that must be taken every day.

Are you happy most of the time? Then share your own secret formula! But if you are not happy then it can be well worth your time to consider the "happiness formula" and how you can apply it to your life. Remember, it is not enough to wish for or think about happiness -- but rather you must live it.

You can live a happier life with the help of the happiness formula as well as your own active pursuit of happiness. ( By Deanna Mascle )